Romance fizzles as night out comes to an end

Submitted by: Marc Gittelman

Submitted on: September 12, 2006

Q: When my husband and I go out to dinner or a party we come home exhausted and he falls asleep before we can be romantic. We have a great time and we flirt a;; night, but at home it’s a different story. What can you recommend to keep that spark going after we get home?

A: For many couples the evening is filled with drinks, dinner, and entertainment. Sometimes there is dancing and or partying that requires our bodies to utilize a huge amount of energy as the night progresses. The body also requires increased blood flow to help our digestive tract after we consume virtually any quantity of food. This adds to the sleepiness we feel after we indulge ourselves in eating a big meal. Drinking alcohol may have may have a great socialization effort, but it works in our bodies as a sedative. The more people drink the more likely they are to crash physically by the end of the social activity. Too much drinking can even impair the ability to have a satisfactory erection.

Consider starting your foreplay early in the day with verbal teasing of how sexy the evening will be with your love. Heighten the anticipation by dressing in separate areas. Begin your preparations for the evening earlier than usual to allow plenty of time for you to feel sexy physically and mentally. Meet in your living room with candlelight, music and your first drink of the evening. Then as the sexual tension builds, instead of heading out the front door, head for your bedroom door. Making love when your body is fresh and your sexual energy is high will be a treat so enjoyable that you and your husband may want to make this new approach a part of every night out.