The Moments After SEX
ARE AS IMPORTANT AS THE MOMENTS BEFORE
Submitted by: Marc C. Gittelman, M.D.
Submitted: February 14, 2006
Whatever you do, don’t fall asleep after making love! OK, not right away. And don’t jump out of bed in 30 seconds.
The time immediately following lovemaking is a critical time for intimacy. Some people call this afterplay, or after-love. It is a chance to enjoy each other’s souls in the afterglow of having shared each other on many other levels.
Our bodies are actually programmed to bond with our partner during these after-love moments. Our brain releases the hormone oxytocin immediately after orgasm, according to Dr. Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University. When this chemical flows through our brains and bodies, it increases our sense of love and bonding. It is the same hormone that gets released during breast feeding, helping to create the love and bonding between mothers and their newborns.
Every time we make love we can take advantage of this powerful love hormone. It is a chance to feel the heat of each other’s body. It is a chance to breathe in the scent of each other’s skin. Take a moment to looks at you lover and catch that fleetingly mystical connection that happens when you look into each other’s eyes long enough. Entangle your arms and legs so you’re not sure where yours of your lover’s begin.
The newest model of women’s sexuality places more emphasis on achieving intimacy than achieving orgasm. The more likely she gains intimacy, the more likely for her to initiate sexual activity or be receptive of her partner’s sexual advances. In other words, the she feels at the end, the more likely it will happen again.
The after-love is an essential component to a women’s sense of satisfaction. Don’t miss this opportunity to have some true emotional bonding, and it may be that you will have many more chances to enjoy the lovemaking that leads to after-love cuddling.