DOCTOR G ON SEXUAL HEALTH
Medication helps in more ways than one
Submitted by: Marc C. Gittelman, M.D.
Submitted on: March 28, 2006
Q: Ever since I have had problems with my sexual performance, I have noticed that my wife’s attitude toward intimacy has changed. Her desire is lower and it seems as though her satisfaction lever is lower. I really want to see a doctor, but my wife is dead set against it. Is there anything I can tell her that might change her mind?
A: Statistics tell us that 35 percent of all men have sexual problems and more than 40percent of women complain of some type of sexual issue. But there is no question that there is a connection between the sexes that when one persons has sexual problems, the partner is likely to be feeling the effects of the vacuum of their prior intimacy and sexuality.
Nearly 300 women were surveyed in a large international study to better understand their response to their partner’s erection problems. Not surprisingly, they reported significant declines I their current sexual desire, arousal and orgasm when compared with times before the onset of their partner’s erection difficulties. They then surveyed the same women after their partners erections were helped with medication. The results were startling. Couples reported that since they begun treatment, both the women and the man derived more pleasure from the anticipation of sexual intercourse, as well as more pleasure during intercourse and more pleasure from orgasm. Couples on treatment also showed significant gains in their overall pleasure. Even more amazing was that, on average, many believed their partners were experiencing more pleasure from their sexual activities than compared with even before the onset of the man’s erection problems!
The good news is that one of the main motivations for men with sexual problems to seek successful treatment is their honest concern for the sexual satisfaction of their partner. But ironically, many women are reluctant to let their man ask for one of the new miracle erection medicines. As you might expect, women whose partner has an erection problem clearly influences her man’s decision to go to a physician and ask for help. Perhaps if she knew that by helping her partner’s sexual ability she would dramatically increase her own sexuality and the sexual satisfaction of their relationship, she would ask her partner to run, not walk to his doctor’s appointment.