Hormones are key in reigniting passion
Submitted by: Marc C. Gittelman, M.D.
Submitted on: November 22, 2005
Q: My husband and I have been married nearly 20 years and our sex life has really mellowed. Is there any chance we can recapture the hot attraction we had years ago?
A: Has the thrill of your sensuality fizzled over the years? Are you worried it might dwindle with time and familiarity? Can sex be as good or better as you age (like fine wine)? Yes, Yess, YESSS! Sex can still be great, maybe even better, because sexual satisfaction is linked to emotional and partner satisfaction. Studies have shown that satisfaction tends to increase over time with relationships. First we must consider the physical and hormonal changes our bodies transition through with each decade. And equally importantly, we must face the challenge of always keeping the freshness, the intimacy and the passion alive in our relationships. This week’s column will address the hormonal balance needed to maintain good sexual response. My next two columns will discuss reviving the emotional components of your relationship.
Balancing hormones is equally important to women as it is to men. It is not just men who make testosterone, the hormone that helps to increase sex drive and libido. As women and men age, this valuable hormone decreases with time and this can translate into a decrease in sex drive, fantasy and receptivity to your partner’s sexual advances. There is also medical data that show that DHEA is one of the hormones that is also important to maintaining women’s sexual equilibrium. But don’t go running out to buy DHEA without first checking with your physician. Your hormone status needs to be evaluated to determine whether deficiencies are present. Then we will consider the risks and benefits of considering either standard or bioidentical replacement of these imbalances. Don’t forget that as women approach the menopausal years, the role of estrogen is extremely important in maintaining good genital health and lubrication during sexual arousal. Your gynecologist can be helpful in giving you appropriate advice.
Remember to take good care of your body: eat right and exercise. If you are good to your body, it will be good to you by giving you a better chance to enjoy the sexuality you desire. (Don’t forget to read my next columns addressing emotional issues in your relationship and tips on how to be a better lover).