The Moment After Sex are as Important as the Moment Before
Submitted By: Marc Gittelman
Submitted On: February 14, 2006
Whatever you do, don’t fall asleep after making love!
OK, not right away. And don’t jump out of bed in 30 seconds.
The time immediately following lovemaking is a critical time for intimacy. Some people call this afterplay, or after-love. It is a chance to enjoy each other’s souls in the afterglow of having shared each other on many other levels.
Our bodies are actually programmed to bond with our partner during these after-love moments. Our brains release the hormone oxytocin immediately after orgasm, according to Dr. Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University. When this chemical flows through our brains and bodies, it increases our sense of love and bonding. It is the same hormone that gets released during breastfeeding, helping to create the love and bonding between mothers and newborns.
Every time we make love we can take advantage of this powerful love hormone. It is a chance to breathe in the scent of each others skin. Take a moment to look at your lover and catch that fleeting mystical connection that happens when you look into each other’s eyes long enough. Entangle your arms and legs so you’re not sure where yours and your lover’s begin.
The newest model of women’s sexuality places more emphasis on achieving intimacy than achieving orgasm. The more likely she gains intimacy, the more likely for her to initiate sexual activity or be receptive to her partner’s sexual advances. In other words, the better she feels at the end, the more likely it will happen again.
The after-love is an essential component to a women’s sense of satisfaction. Don’t miss this opportunity to have some true emotional bonding, and it may be that you will have more chances to enjoy the lovemaking that leads to after-love cuddling.